Do you “used to”? How to revitalise your life by bringing back what you love

Gillyanne said to me last week “There are too many ‘used tos’ in my life. I used to do things that aren’t in my life any more”.

I’ll be honest, I thought that was quite sad, but it got me wondering.

Have you ever stopped to think about the things you used to do that brought you happiness? Singers, teachers and coaches are creative people, yet it’s easy to get caught up in our musical pursuits and forget about other passions that once filled our lives. This is a gentle reminder to revisit that joy.

Consider the hobbies or activities you once loved. Whether it was painting, reading, partying, or just enjoying quiet moments in a cafe watching the world go by, these activities were more than pastimes; they were sources of joy and relaxation.

Do you still have those things in your life? If not, would you like to reintroduce any of these into your current life?

This question is not about trying to relive the past but rather about seeing if these activities still resonate with you.

If something appeals to you, why not plan to do it again? Set a goal to incorporate it back into your life within the next two weeks. This could be a solo endeavour or an opportunity to connect with friends.

But what if it’s not the activity you miss but the feeling it gave you? Identify that emotion and consider new ways to experience it today. Set a date for this as well, and give yourself something to look forward to.

Remember, this isn’t about making dramatic changes. It’s about enriching your life with small, joyful experiences from your past that contribute to overall happiness and balance. Artists understand the importance of harmony in life—let’s apply that understanding to our personal joys as well.

I’m curious to hear what you decide to bring back into your life. Feel free to share your experiences in the comments below and let’s inspire each other.



P.S. Interestingly, this topic came up while Gillyanne and I were reminiscing about the curtains in our old London home (we left 14 years ago). It’s amazing how ordinary conversations can trigger odd and profound reflections. Keep an eye out for these moments in your own life and see where they lead you. Stay tuned for Gillyanne’s next steps!

P.P.S. Taking my own advice, I’ve just started hand-knitting again. Currently knitting a hat in the round, and apart from consistently stabbing myself with five tiny needles it’s very satisfying.